(tw: rape, abuse, images of assault at 4th link)
I’ve never asked anyone to reblog anything before, and I probably won’t again. But I am now - because this matters.
The Steubenville rape victim, when offered money for her legal expenses or counselling, asked that people donated to a shelter for abused women and children in her county, Madden House, instead…
Click through to donate to Madden House shelter who work with those suffering abuse. I just donated $2 (about £1.37) - if we all donate that amount, think what a difference it could make! And with your donation you can show Jane Doe that you support and believe her.
(On a similar note, you can donate to Rape Crisis here, Refuge here and Eaves here. Or you can do what I have done and set up a monthly payment - £1/month isn’t a lot, but it can make all the difference in the current climate.)
Some people will find any mention of rape triggering, so please skip past this video if that’s you.
For everyone else: This is how you do a ‘rape joke’. Yes, it is possible!
An old The Onion sketch that is incredibly fitting at this moment in time. (Think Steubenville reporting.)
"Consent isn’t a game where if you can avoid your partner saying “no” firmly, you get to do whatever you want."
![Veronica Mars spoilers! If you haven’t watched Veronica Mars, don’t read this. But also, if you haven’t watched Veronica Mars yet, what are you doing? Go watch it now! YOU HAVE TO BE READY FOR THE MOVIE.
theatlantic:
‘Veronica Mars,’ TV’s Realest Depiction of Rape, Is Going to Be a Movie
She had agency and was given a voice that went deeper and was more honest than any of its predecessors. Throughout the television show, Veronica has nightmares about the night she was assaulted. Viewers also find out in the second season that Veronica has an STI as a result of her rape, making the assault all the more realistic. Needless to say, the teenager ends up developing a keen distrust of the men around her, affecting all her future relationships throughout the show. But despite getting laughed out of the police chief’s office when she comes forward about her ordeal, Veronica never loses sight of the fact that she is not to blame for her rape—and neither do the show’s viewers, who are treated to a dramatic story-line that is both realistic and empowering. For fans and haters alike, Veronica Mars remains the only American television series that successfully depicts the long-term effects of this type of sexual violence.
Read more. [Image: CW]](http://24.media.tumblr.com/91e1300bda41dab80d2681b23adaf115/tumblr_mjnrp40lh21qcokc4o1_400.jpg)
Veronica Mars spoilers! If you haven’t watched Veronica Mars, don’t read this. But also, if you haven’t watched Veronica Mars yet, what are you doing? Go watch it now! YOU HAVE TO BE READY FOR THE MOVIE.
‘Veronica Mars,’ TV’s Realest Depiction of Rape, Is Going to Be a Movie
She had agency and was given a voice that went deeper and was more honest than any of its predecessors. Throughout the television show, Veronica has nightmares about the night she was assaulted. Viewers also find out in the second season that Veronica has an STI as a result of her rape, making the assault all the more realistic. Needless to say, the teenager ends up developing a keen distrust of the men around her, affecting all her future relationships throughout the show. But despite getting laughed out of the police chief’s office when she comes forward about her ordeal, Veronica never loses sight of the fact that she is not to blame for her rape—and neither do the show’s viewers, who are treated to a dramatic story-line that is both realistic and empowering. For fans and haters alike, Veronica Mars remains the only American television series that successfully depicts the long-term effects of this type of sexual violence.
Read more. [Image: CW]
Trigger warning for discussions of rape and rape culture.
Zerlina Maxwell offers ways to prevent rape without making women responsible for the crimes committed against them
I took part in a recent debate on Fox News’ Sean Hannity Show about whether women should just get guns in order to prevent rape. There I said the following:
“I think that the entire conversation is wrong. I don’t want anybody to be telling women anything. I don’t want men to be telling me what to wear and how to act, not to drink. And I don’t, honestly, want you to tell me that I needed a gun in order to prevent my rape. In my case, don’t tell me if I’d only had a gun, I wouldn’t have been raped. Don’t put it on me to prevent the rape.”
As a rape survivor, the conversation about how to best combat rape and domestic violence is personal and can be very challenging. Rape culture is a pervasive part of our society because of social conditioning. Yet we struggle to find ways to avoid patterns of victim blaming and many of us would rather advise women on the precautions they should take to avoid being raped as opposed to starting at the root of the problem: teaching men and boys not to be rapists in the first place.
When I said that “We can prevent rape by telling men not to commit it,” I wasn’t expressing some simplistic, fantastical worldview. There are organizations like Men Can Stop Rape and Men Stopping Violence that are already doing the work to train men from a young age to understand and challenge rape culture. Interestingly enough, many who disagreed with my argument chose to send me rape threats, insults, and dismissive remarks that in many ways proved my point.
We need a cultural shift NOW. In hopes of getting a conversation started, here are five practical ways by which we can teach men not to rape…
heavy trigger warnings for rape.
all right, I’ve calmed down enough to post this, and hell fuckin’ no I ain’t blurrin’ out names.
hi my name is rachael, and this is why feminism is still needed. I have nothing else to say.
I cannot even. Like I can’t even think of the words. How fucking. How are these people alive and this fucking despicable? I think we need to forward this to their parents immediately. They will be fucking ashamed that they have raised such vile creatures. (Honestly, if anyone can figure out a way to do this, I really think it should be done.)
OP, I can only feel for you. I wouldn’t have been able to stick it out nearly as long as you did. You are a much stronger person than me, and I am sending you all my respect and solidarity.
ETA: She’s blanked out the names now. Apparently people were sending them death threats…
"The real horror here is that Boys Don’t Cry was based on a true story. Brandon Teena was a real person, who was really brutally raped and killed. The scene that McFarlane is making a sexualized joke out of really happened to a real human being who really died. Because according to McFarlane, breasts exist for men’s amusement, and the total violation and murder of people with breasts is just a big joke because the bodies of women and FAAB people are just hilarious.
When McFarlane reduces Swank’s amazingly powerful performance down to a punchline about her body, he’s doing more than making light of her talent. He’s literally inviting people to laugh at rape and murder. He’s construing breasts as existing for men’s pleasure, whether sexual pleasure or just to make fun of, all the time—even when they belong to people, like Brandon Teena in Boys Don’t Cry, who identify as men. Even when they are exposed as part of a badly injured body, like Charlize Theron in Monster—another film based on a true story. Even when they symbolize the racist sexualization of black women by white men, like Halle Berry in Monster’s Ball. Even when they’re visible during a violent gang rape, as passerby cheer the attackers on, like Jodie Foster in The Accused, once again based on a real-life attack. Even when, like Scarlet Johansson, another target of the boob song, personal nude photographs of them were leaked without consent."
bitchfox asked you:
no. it is the same! but I’m very annoyed of you and your little brain.
